Hope for Adoptive Moms: Day Eight
what adoption taught me about hope
By Kendra Roehl
READ: Lamentations 3:22-23, Romans 15:13, Philippians 1:6
"I think the greatest thing we can do to show our kids love and that we believe in them is to just get up every morning and consistently show up. We’re not perfect, but we’re here,” my husband stated, as he looked at me across the island in our kitchen after everyone had finally made their way to bed. We’d just had a hard day with one of our kids, and sometimes it feels a bit like a roller coaster of emotion and behavior that I often find myself resisting the urge to ride. Being a steady force in a person’s life when they are emotionally coming undone is harder than I ever thought it could be.
Each morning, I pick up my bible, looking for confirmation about who God is, what his character is like, and every day I walk away more determined to claim what I know about God: He is strong, faithful, forgiving, loving, kind, compassionate…and on and on the list goes.
This is where my hope lies. God’s mercies are new everyday. He is relentless in his love and pursuit of me. He never gives up on any of us. And consistently showing up for my adopted kids, on good days and hard days, is a reflection to them of God’s character. My husband and I don’t mirror it perfectly, but the hope still remains in our trying.
Every day we have the opportunity to get up and start new. And when we do we teach our children that they have the opportunity to get up everyday and start fresh. They learn hope though our words, but more importantly our actions.
Adoption has taught me so much about the character of God and the hope that there is for each one of us. I am constantly reminded that God’s mercies never end and his faithfulness is great—giving me hope that even when I don’t see it in my children, even when emotions run high and we’re dealing with behaviors—God and his love remains strong. We have this hope for my children because we have a God who is always full of hope for us. Don’t be discouraged by what you see, God’s not done yet.
Scripture Meditation: Because of the Lord’s faithful love we do not perish, for his mercies never end. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness! Lamentations 3:22-23
1. In what ways have you felt a little discouraged lately in your parenting?
2. How have you seen God show up in your parenting before? And how can remembering what he has done help you hope for the future?
3. What are you trusting him with now?
4. What can you tell yourself about God and his character that will give you hope as you continue to raise your child(ren)?
Prayer: Heavenly Father, Thank you for the way that you consistently show up for each one of us. You offer us new mercies every day. May we remember that truth as we seek to show our kids love and compassion and mercy. I pray for the mom who is discouraged today, that you would remind her of the hope she has in you. Encourage her to keep showing up consistently in the small, everyday ways that, over time, matter the most. May she remember that you love her kids and will not let them go. Thank you for your faithfulness. Amen.