Hope for Adoptive Moms: Day Four
life in the in-between
By Erica Willis
READ: Exodus 33:15-17
The in-between always gets a bad rap-- That awkward length of hair between short and long as it grows out it; tweens anxiously waiting to become teens; college students stuck as interns wishing they were professionals; every Christian longing for heaven, but required to stay on earth. Even adoptive mamas are stuck in the in-between, actively waiting after finishing all the paperwork and filling every journal with tear-stained prayer requests. When will their child finally be, well, theirs?
Waiting on the promise of adoption is hard, and not many are excited by the prospect of the in-between. I can’t say I blame the nay-sayers. The in-between drums up fear and doubt--
“God, did I really hear your voice telling me to adopt?”
“Am I still on the right path?”
“Will adoption ever happen for me and my family?”
Moses was a man who knew about waiting. He was appointed by God to lead the Israelites out of slavery and into the promised land. A land flowing with milk and honey. A place they could finally call home. It took 40 years for their promise to be fulfilled. Moses led well, but some of the people lost hope in the waiting. They were free from the enslaving hand of the Egyptians, a total miracle, but they began to complain and ask, “Are we there yet?!?” (Every mom is more like Moses than they realize!) The Israelites saw the in-between as a curse, as we all tend to do, but Moses knew better. He knew the in-between was the most powerful part of the promise.
““If your presence does not go,” Moses responded to him, “don’t make us go up from here. How will it be known that I and your people have found favor with you unless you go with us? I and your people will be distinguished by this from all the other people on the face of the earth.” The Lord answered Moses, “I will do this very thing you have asked, for you have found favor with me, and I know you by name.” (Exodus 33:15-17)
Moses knew if God didn’t go with him every step, then the promise didn’t matter. At the end of the day, God’s presence was the most important promise of all. The waiting taught him the in-between is powerful and purposeful. It’s a time to learn to trust God’s timing and plan, even when you cannot see the end result. God is with us every step of the way. Moses knew it, and you and I can feel it. God’s purpose is greater than we can understand, so we must choose to trust He is in control of every detail, big and small. Today, we will stay strong in the waiting. We will celebrate in the hope to come. We won’t despise the process, but embrace our progress. God never leaves us in the in-between. And that’s a promise you can count on.
Scripture Meditation: For then you will have a future, and your hope will not be dashed. Proverbs 23:18
1. What is your biggest worry while you wait for your adoption to be finalized? How can you let God teach you to trust Him during this time?
2. Rather than despising the in-between season, how can you begin to see the good in it? Create a list of the ways God has shown up for you in this process.
3. Moses wouldn’t take a step without God leading him. Pray about your next step, that God may lead the way even when you are unsure of the process.
Prayer: God, I pray that you will renew my hope as I wait. I want this time to be a chance to grow closer to you, but I am struggling. It is my heart to trust you through this process no matter how long it takes. Thank you that my child has already been ordained by you and I can trust your timing and purpose. I praise you for loving and adopting me, and I am blessed to be able to show that love and grace to another.