Wisdom for the Teen Years: Day Two
by Christina Eastman
Read Ephesians 1:19-20
When my daughter has understood what I am saying her response is “heard”. She’s 20. Naturally my 15 year old has picked up the language as well. Oh, the teenage years are the years of hard, hard conversations. So much real life happens in those years. Such a pull in this direction or that direction and it’s constant. I have found that my kids really do want to have those hard conversations with me. The ones that I don't really want to have. The awkward ones. Even the troublesome ones. And the timing is NEVER ideal!
James gives me clear instruction when faced with those hard conversations. You mom; be quick to listen. It's either the time when the house is crazy busy, or I am quiet and still and enjoying myself that my kids want to chat. Oh, how I need to lean in during those moments. You listening to momma; be slow to speak. I am quick to offer advice and opinion especially when it concerns my kids but the Word here plain as day says, shhhh. Slow to become angry. I don't understand the pressure, I don't remember the hormones, or the know it all solutions of being 16. Not any more. The instruction here is life-giving to me, mom. Not always is there the need to be angry and when there is, be slow about it.
My Pastor often says that I am the nectar of my home. My children drink from that nectar. Let my speech, my tone, and my smile be that of sweet nourishment to them.
Proverbs 15:1 so reiterates all of this. My response has the ability to create the next steps of their life. Oh, how I desire for their next steps to keep them in right relationship with the Lord.
Scripture Meditation: A gentle answer turns away anger, but a harsh word stirs up wrath. The tongue of the wise makes knowledge attractive, but the mouth of fools blurts out foolishness. Proverbs 15:1-2
Am I quiet enough to hear when my kids are speaking? Even if they're not saying any words?
What is the taste of the nectar I am delivering? Even in the hard moments.
How can I change my response to hard conversations to reflect Christ more?
Father, at times this feels like my greatest struggle. Guard my words. Remind me that the influence I have is great and purposeful. Equip me with your patience to be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. In the most important conversations let the wisdom that comes from you be heard. Help me to extend grace to myself when I need it and mercy to my children when they need it. Pointing them to You. Amen