This week we're talking about expectations. The newsletter posed some questions about our motivation behind the expectations we have of our children.
Today, I want to talk about us. If we take a moment to stop and really think about it, there are unspoken expectations we place on ourselves as mothers.
We have mental check lists, and when we haven't been able to place a mental tick mark next to each item on the list, we feel a sense of failure and inadequacy.
As moms in our culture, I think we are always fighting against this temptation to keep up with "Mama Jones", as I affectionately call her. By the way, she's a fictional character we create in our minds. She's the perfect mom who has it all together and is always one step ahead of everyone else. Let's shatter this lie right now. There is no such person.
We all seem to fit under one of 3 categories: 1- trying to do it all,2- feeling guilty for not doing it all, OR 3- feeling guilty for trying to do it all and failing.
First, let's all just breathe.
Sometimes I forget to just breathe. Physically, mentally, spiritually.
We could do an in dept study of Proverbs 31 or search the scriptures for parenting wisdom. There is definitely a time and place for that. But even the thought of that can heap a heavy weight of expectation upon us, if we're not careful. Not to oversimplify, but I think it all leads back to one very important thing---submission.
Submitting to the Lord daily. No I take that back. Submitting to the Lord in each moment. As we submit more our hearts are trained to continue submitting to Him, even in the seemingly unimportant things.
In the submitting, we learn to trust & believe Him.
In the trusting & believing, we learn to seek Him first.
In the seeking Him first, we learn to allow Him to order our steps, our days, our weeks and months.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. (Proverbs 3:5-6)
Sometimes we have to get back to the foundation of our faith.
Submitting. Trusting. Seeking.
Are you feeling unsettled? Is the chaos of life making you feel as if you just aren't measuring up to your own silent expectations, or the expectations you think others have of you?
Trust in Him. Lean on Him. Acknowledge Him.
He will lead you.
That's hard, isn't it? Letting someone lead you. That's the hard stuff of faith. That requires trust.
But let's take it one step at a time. First, let's submit. Let's humble ourselves before the Lord and confess to Him that without Him we can do NOTHING.
I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing. (John 15:5)
We love you and we are here for you, We are in this together!