(We are starting something new here on the Thrive Moms blog. Each month we will be featuring a Mama we think you will be able to relate to in some way, and hopefully through whom you will find inspiration. Let us know what you think! Enjoy!)
Allow me to introduce myself! My name is Becky, and I am the creator and writer behind Whistles & Clovers, an exciting and inspiring fashion blog...... or maybe not... Really, the blog is about a mama who is striving to find the glamor and humor in the every day.
Before the dream job I have now (being a mom), I had my dream job. The job that I had wanted for a very long time. I loved every single second of it, and the only reason I left is because I wanted to be home with my daughter, Savona (Suh-voe-nuh). I was a very Personal Stylist for J. Crew. I was the "shopper" behind people's wardrobes. I dressed my clients for family pictures, vacations, work, specific events, the list went on, but the point is I got to basically shop for a living. To some this may sound shallow and vapid, but here is where that's just not true....
Women struggle with insecurity so much. It can cause so much hurt and pain, lead to depression, and affect the relationships they have with the ones they love. The reason why I loved my job so much is because I knew God had put me there for a reason. And that reason was to help bring back even an inkling of that confidence that these women once had. I can't tell you how special it was to be able to witness and see a woman's face light up when she found that perfect fitting dress or jeans that made her feel good about herself... My heart breaks for women who are so cruel to their bodies, because I truly believe that EVERY woman, EVERY shape, EVERY size is absolutely perfect because God created her and He has never made a mistake. Not ever.
And that is why Whistles & Clovers came to be. I lasted a total of one whole week without helping women, and I couldn't do it. So my little blog is there to bring inspiration to women, moms specifically, everywhere...not just at J. Crew. To laugh at all those "momisms" and the less than glamorous lives that we lead with our littles. To relate to women whose bodies have been changed due to childbirth. To talk about thigh chaffing, stretch marks, and muffin tops. To be REAL. It is a place where I pray that women can feel themselves and know that I am being myself. 100%.
I wish I had a magic potion for getting rid of insecurity, but I don't. I struggle with mine on the daily. My ego takes a nasty hit when those jeans that used to fit perfectly won't even go up past my knees anymore.... or that shirt that used to be baggy is like it was painted on me... So what do we do? Can we ever dig ourselves out of this hole of self-disgust and constant comparisons? Well, I believe yes. Yes we can. But it's going to take a HUGE amount of effort on your part, and, sadly, you will fail constantly. But one day you'll wake up and realize that it's a little bit better.. and the next day it'll be a little bit better after that... so here's what I do:
Whenever I am about to have a fun little "bash" session with my body, I look at myself in the mirror and find ONE thing that I love about myself.. some days, it's hard to find something. I remember one day I looked at myself and said "You have a nice forehead." And that was it! I laughed at how silly I felt, but then knew that God was probably saying, "Yes, I made that forehead and that forehead is good." OR, whenever I start to compare myself with another person (be it a celebrity, another fashion blogger, a friend, etc... the list goes on), I quote Oscar Wilde "Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken." It's small, but it does help. We were all made completely different ON PURPOSE. Our God is not a boring God. He knew exactly what He was doing when He made each and every one of us, and He made variety. EMBRACE that ladies. When you have confidence and are happy with who you are, you are going to realize that you can finally start living the life that God intended for you to live. You can finally love the way you were supposed to, breathe the way you were supposed to, and find peace, the way you were supposed to. That is a life that I will fight for and strive for.
Fun facts about me: I have an unhealthy love for Diet Coke, specifically fountain DC with crushed ice. I have a 19 month old daughter, Savona Belle, who is very sassy and very brave. I have a super hot husband, Christian, who is a musician in a band called Grayshot. I love those 3 things (not in that order), along with traveling (I want to go everywhere) and food (I want to eat everything). Connect with me on Instagram here or visit Whistles & Clovers here!