I’m mama of two beautiful four-month-old little girls and I’m in love with this new role as a mother. I’m having a blast watching the girls grow and learn new things everyday. As a mama who works outside of the home, I love coming home to their smiles, babbling, and cuddles. Journeying through motherhood has been filled with moments of overwhelming joy and laughter, as well as moments filled with the need for overwhelming grace.
One of the sweetest lessons I'm learning now is how to be very aware of what's hard for me so that I can be more intentional about doing those things with grace and love. As with anything else, “difficult” is subjective and it can also be fun. Taking the girls to Target isn’t always easy, but it’s fun for me so it’s an enjoyable experience. It the things I’m not so great at that I need to be more mindful about because those moments can easily become a situation filled with frustration and impatience. It’s those responses that can make or break our day because of my attitude.
I love that we can look to Christ as the perfect example of how to handle hard situations with patience and grace. How being loving and patient with others regardless of the situation can bring peace and encouragement. The lesson in doing hard things well teaches that it’s possible to do difficult tasks with joy and that they can be beneficial to us even despite the bore factor.
For example, bedtime is not my favorite time of day. Not because I dislike putting my girls to sleep but because of the time it happens. My daughters naturally fall asleep somewhere between 7-8p and stay asleep until the morning. It’s a new thing and I’m not quite adjusted yet. I have no break between my work outside of the home and my work as a mama. Come in, play and immediately give them their bottles and bath, get them in their jammies, and put them down for the night. Simple, right? Yes and no. This time can be a breeding ground for impatience and frustration. But, with a quick perspective shift, bedtime becomes this time period full of opportunities to share and deepen our relationship. I have time to cuddle, chit chat, and just be with my children. The amount of eye contact and bonding during bath time and feeding the girls is priceless. There's nothing greater than rocking them to sleep on my chest. Even though coming right home and jumping right into mommy-mode is hard for me, I’m looking forward altering my evenings so that I can prepare the girls to sleep well during the night. Right now, bedtime is a cake walk; they can’t ask for water a million times or for their bedtime story to be read again. So, I know our routine can be a little different, but I am encouraged and my perspective about enjoying the tough stuff is renewed because I see the beauty that’s tucked so beautifully inside of those moments. Sometimes, that beauty is tucked way down deep inside of many of our moments throughout the day, but they are there if we’re willing to look for them.
I love how James reminds us to be slow to speak and get angry but quick to hear…… Not only because our relationships thrive when we are patient, not only because when we listen with grace we become more understanding, but because when we slow down we can enjoy what's in front of us that much more. When we’re rushing about or trying to just get a hard task done without looking for beauty, we tend to be impatient. We tend to do a lot of ordering and fussing and reprimanding. When we’re moving too fast, we become frustrated. Our little people tend to be in their own worlds focused on what they enjoy and their to-do list and not so much of doing what’s hard for them or not on their agenda….and, they want us to do what they want to do. (Sound familiar? Ouch!) Say hello to not only slowing down but bringing things to a complete HALT!! (lol)
Mamas, want to try something together? Can we try slowing down and being purposeful about giving the hard stuff a chance to be beautiful? Let’s think about how we can position ourselves to be more enjoyable so that our time spent with our little ones can be fruitful. For me, that looks like coming home and immediately washing my face and hopping in the shower. This way, I’m refreshed and ready to enjoy my daughters. Maybe, to you, it looks like running at dawn or having a cup (or two) of coffee on your patio. Whatever it is for you, let's choose do those things so that we can enjoy our time with our families, yes?
What a beautiful gifts we’ve been given as mothers. What a joy it is to have the opportunities to raise them and watch them grow into honorable young men and women who love our God. A task that isn’t easy, but with the grace of God it can definitely be beautiful.
// Hey y'all! I'm a wife and new mama of twin girls who lives in the great state of Texas! I share a ton of my thoughts and lessons learned over at UnashamedGrowth and pictures of my life looks like over on Instagram (@amayes)! I'd love to connect with you!!! Join me on this journey! \\