There is often little room for my words when I am with my children. The words, songs, and constant chatter never quits. Sun up to sundown, I am surrounded by noise and laughter, banter and sometimes fights.
The world spins and for a mama, time marches on to the beat of breakfast time, nap times, clean up time, lesson time, supper time, bed time.
The days can blur together and I have to be intentional at times to stop and listen. To take in the small moments and successes as they come (my youngest went potty on the toilet TWICE today! Is a diaper less home in my near future??! One can hope…).
And as I sit in the evening and listen to my oldest, already fifteen, share about his recent sporting adventures and plans for taking drivers education this summer (eek!), thoughts swirl through my mind, ready to tumble out, but instead I just sit and listen.
When it comes to communication, I’ve learned that being a mom means I walk a fine line between having something and nothing to say all of the time. Carefully trying to measure my words, speak truth, but not dominate my kids, and allow room for them to be and share all of who they are with me.
I’ve been reading lately about guarding my thoughts and my tongue. I find this most challenging when it comes to my children. So often I want to come in with an answer or instruction—and although there is certainly space for that—God is most often teaching me in this season to be quiet. To listen. To hear my kids and respond only after I’ve allowed them to finish.
The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. Proverbs 14:1
This is the scripture I have been meditating on lately. A reminder for me that a wise woman builds her house (and her children up), but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands. And if I’m honest, I have been a foolish woman at times, tearing down my house, and at times, my children, with the things I’ve said.
But I am learning. Sometimes daily, moment by moment. Stopping and asking myself, do I need to speak here? If not, then I stay quiet and just listen.
I may have torn down my house foolishly in the past, but today is a new day, and I can choose to build it back up, one brick, one conversation at time.