Lies Moms Believe: Lie #1

lie #1: motherhood is your highest calling

By Rebekah Hargraves

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READ: Genesis 1:26-18, Matthew 28:18-20, 2 Corinthians 5:20

For years I believed motherhood to be a woman’s highest calling. From the time I was a little girl I dreamed of the day when I would become a mama and have sweet little babies of my own. For a portion of my teen years I even journeyed through a season of intense legalism in which I believed a woman’s sole purpose was wrapped up in the bearing and raising of children.

What I didn’t understand at the time, however, was how heartbreaking this notion was to women everywhere who could either not bear children or whose girlhood dreams of marriage and motherhood never came to fruition. I likewise didn’t understand how the notion of motherhood as being a woman’s highest calling was harmful to mothers, as well. I didn’t see how believing that lie could be crippling on the hard days of motherhood and pride-inducing on the good. And I certainly didn’t understand that the lie was just that - a lie - when compared to the teachings of Scripture.

All of this changed for me when I truly grasped the words God spoke in Genesis 1:26-28. In that rich passage I discovered that the ultimate highest calling of a woman is actually the exact same as that of a man - to be an image bearer of God and to subdue the earth on His behalf. 

I then read the words of Jesus when He said in Matthew 28:18-20 that He was tasking all of us with the calling we now know as the Great Commission - to go and make disciples. At the same time, I saw this message continued by Paul in 2 Corinthians 5:20 when he said that we are to be ministers of reconciliation and ambassadors for Christ. 

This, dear mama, is your ultimate highest calling: to be an image bearer of God and ambassador of Christ daily living out the work of the Great Commission. Understanding this is what then gives motherhood its importance and sacred impact. Motherhood standing alone is one thing. But motherhood viewed in light of its position as being one way in which we can live out our calling to be Great Commission workers? That’s a whole other thing entirely!  



Scripture for Meditation:

“Jesus came near and said to them, ‘All authority has been given to me in heaven and on earth. Go, therefore, and make disciples of[a] all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe everything I have commanded you. And remember, I am with you always, to the end of the age.’” ~Matthew 28:18-20


Questions for Reflection:

1. Have you been believing the lie that motherhood on its own is your ultimate highest calling? What further traps has this caused you to fall into along your mothering journey?

2. What positive difference could it make in your mothering for you to instead view motherhood as being an outworking of your true highest calling to fulfill the Great Commission in your home and life?

3. How could realizing that your children are your first disciples change the way you view the day-in and day-out work of mothering?


Lord, thank You for who You made me to be. Thank you that I have been tasked with the high calling of being Your image bearer, Your ambassador, and a Great Commission worker for Your kingdom. Help me to view motherhood as one way in which I can live out my ultimate highest calling of bearing Your name and furthering Your kingdom. Be with me today, Lord, as I seek to encourage and love my children well, pointing them to You all along the way. In Jesus’ name, Amen.



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