Expectations in Motherhood: Day Six
“Expectation - I can do it all”
By Nicole Lawrence
READ: Philippians 4:10-20, Psalm 51:16-17, Hebrews 10:1-18
I know the danger of social media on my fragile heart, yet I continue to open up Instagram and scroll through my feed. I see the mom who creates the cutest animal figures out of her children’s food and think I need to be more creative like that mom. Another tiny square shows me the mom who is always crafting the perfect learning activities for her kids and I think I need to teach my children like her. My stories give me a glimpse into a mom boldly conquering her dreams one day at a time and I think I need my children to see me hustle like that. I quickly remind myself that I can’t be all those moms, so for a moment, I think maybe I’m okay as I am. Then I remember I can’t forget to add being a better wife, friend, daughter, sister, neighbor, volunteer, ambassador for Christ to that list…..and then I crash. Because my sweet friend, we aren’t called to do it all!
Jesus had several wonderful years of ministry here on earth. He preached, taught, healed, yet even He wasn’t able to perform miracles and physically touch every single person. He did exactly what His Father needed from Him. He had to take breaks to eat, fellowship with friends and most importantly cry out to His Heavenly Father for strength. And just like Jesus had fellowship on earth with friends, we need those people in our lives who can pick up the slack when we are feeling extra worn out.
God doesn’t want a bunch of burnt-out moms, He just wants us to faithfully do our job to the best of our ability and use the unique gifts He’s given us to mother our children exactly the way he knows they need to be mothered. Some of us are gifted in cleaning, some in crafting, some in cooking, but we are all gifted with the ability to love our children well.
We all easily fall into that trap of trying to do it all and be it all. We have to run back to scripture and remember that God doesn’t want all these sacrifices of doing the things that we think make us a good mom, He just wants our hearts. (Hosea 6:6).
Maybe you are still struggling with that thought because you know that there is a pile of laundry on the couch to be folded, a playroom floor scattered with toys, a schedule of to-do’s that is exhausting. God knows you're worn out, momma. He tells us in Matthew 11:28, ”Come to me (mom), I know you are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take up my yoke and learn from me (mom), because I am lowly and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your soul.” I have to make time each day to tell Him my burdens, so He can give me the rest in my soul to know that He is with me in every weary-filled day of motherhood.
“I am oppressed and needy; may the Lord think of me. You are my helper and my deliverer; my God, do not delay.” Psalm 40:17
Where does your need to do it all come from? Are there any unconfessed sins in that desire that call for confession and repentance?
Where are you feeling burnt-out? Can you release the reins of perfection on any areas of your mothering?
Who do you call out to when you need help? This week be intentional to ask for help from one of these people.
Make a list of all the wonderfully unique gifts God has given you as a mother and write out a prayer thanking Him for making you a mother who can do these things well for Him.
PRAY: God, thank you for being my helper. I need you every day to be the best mother I can be. I can’t do it all, because you designed me to need you and others. Teach me how to give myself grace when I slip into mom guilt and replace those thoughts with ones of Your redeeming love for me. We love you, Lord, in Your name we pray. Amen.